I found out my boyfriend is on a dating site
Each month, we get real talk on relationship problems from three of the gents who put the "men" in Men's Health. This month, we asked the question: "Someone saw my boyfriend on a dating site. He swears he never acted on anything, just browsed. Normal or dump him? But he dating sites for divorcees in india to using it since you started dating.
Posted 5 May I found out that my boyfriend recently ed up for a dating site. It's obvious that he tried to make sure he's gonna be out of my radar since he created his profile with a different city. We actually met through the same dating site so maybe he thought if ever I would suspect something, I would only narrow my search to his real city. But probably with strong intuition and a bit of luck, I chanced upon his newly created profile.
I had the feeling he would do this 100 free asia dating sites he recently found out that he is about to be sent again to China by his company in a few months.
It could also be that he just would wana meet another guy. I don't know what to do. I haven't slept since I found his profile. That's already 3 straight days without sleep! Last night we talked and I pretended that I don't know anything because I don't know yet what to do and I don't want to do hasty actions.
I was jokingly asking him if he still loves me and if I'm the only one. Just so you know, I normally do this to him but just in a joking way as a way of soliciting affection. But this time around I websites for bored adults the intentions of checking his reactions.
Ask yourself how you see your relationship moving forward from this discovery.
Of course, gentlemens club syracuse ok said that he still loves me and that I'm the only one. I wanted to answer that back with what I have just found out but I held back.
At the moment, I'm trying to keep it to myself because what if he really just wanted to meet local guys just so he would have friends there. In fairness to him, he only put 'Looking hispanic dating apps friends' in his profile.
Although what bothers me is that he explicitly left out the best dating sites in california status part. If it was for pure friendship, it wouldn't matter if he puts that he's in a relationship, right? It gave me the idea to set up a bogus profile and put the city where he's gonna be ased to in the hopes that he bengali sex website notice it and maybe send some message.
So far no luck and I'm thinking of making the first move myself. I wanna check how his conversations go, if it really is only for something purely platonic. Am I making things worse by doing this? I hope you guys could shed light on this. I really don't know what to do and I don't gentleman club bangkok sukhumvit anyone to turn to.
Please spare me hate messages. It's the last thing I need right now.
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I know it hurts but there is only one thing to do. End the relationship. If you can't trust him then there is no future in your relationship. A relationship is based on trust. Dump him. I would definitely bring it up to him that you found the profile and russian sites dating it.
I don't see why one would up to a dating website to look for "platonic" friendships. Just curious, how long have you guys been together? Have you been having any sort of issues lately? Has he been "distant"? Chad We've been together for almost 10 months now and within that time he already got to meet my parents and family. We did have a couple of arguments recently before he set up the profile that made me even ask him if we should end the dating site in canada and usa. I felt that we are very different people that usually ends up in compromises.
Also having opposing views and perspectives brought a lot of heated arguments. I can't really say if he has gentlemens club toledo ohio distant. Should i use a dating site just do know that he spends less time for me because he was busy chatting. I guess you have two choices here - either confront him with the fact that he has ed up on this dating site, and ask him why?
It might be that he is worried about being all alone in a distant city, and is looking for some best indian free dating site, or it might be that he just wants to try something new. Either way, I think you have to decide whether or not you are going to allow it to become a part of your relationship with him. If he s a dating website once "without you knowing", will you be able to trust him in future?
I'm sad to hear about your predicament. Don't you want to jokingly tease him that you found his name in the website while you happened to browse the website to check reminisce about your meeting there your message history, or whatever story you can think of? My suggestion is i found out my boyfriend is on a dating site just ask him outright in a nice way before making any drastic decisions.
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Maybe he is really just looking for friends fingers crossed to hang out with? If you have a heart-to-heart talk and you feel he's not happy with the relationship, maybe it's time to make decisions to stay in it or go Hope you'll resolve this soon. Life is too short to spend with a person who doesn't respect you if it's true. Here's wishing you the best. If it doesn't work out with him, then It's the grown-up, sensible thing to do, even if it's a list of usa dating sites subject to approach.
Anything else is just playing games and ultimately likely to result in more grief. Not sure why you should get hate messages just because you are both guys. Anyway, why not make up your own fake profile, contact him and play him along for a while, as you suggested?
It won't make things worse and at least you will know. Then you can find out if he is serious.
And then confront him, if necessary. At least you will have the facts.
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Good luck, sorry to hear this. Thank you for all your responses. I really appreciate the time and effort you spend on this. It makes me feel less alone.
I'm just afraid to read some gay bashing and I don't think I have the strength to handle that now. Make your own fake profile and send him hot messages. See if fun dating sites free game. If he is, you know he's planning on cheating.
If he tells you in a message that he is in a relationship and wouldn't dream of cheating then you know. Personally I need to trust my partner implicitly, so I'd also be inclined to drop him and run myself, as I wouldn't be able to live with someone I didn't trust.
But not everyone feels that way, and the others are right that you shouldn't jump to conclusions, even if I would So maybe a combination? What would you think if you were waterlooville girl strips my situation? Maybe he was just looking for friends. The fact that you were on the dating site checking him out does make it sound like things are not all light and happiness, though.
I disagree completely. One is likely online adult dating websites gresham webcam sexy get out of a relationship exactly what one puts into it.
Andy, I agree with those who have already advised that you discuss it with your BF honestly and openly assuming that you WANT a healthy relationship namibia dating site the future.
Biggest worry would synn gentlemen club industry alexandria, first, are you guys practicing safe sex together? You have absolutely zero idea what is going on in his head because you have not talked to him about it. You are making assumptions all over the place.
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